Know Someone In an Abusive Relationship?

Here Are Some Ways You Can Help!

Hello my friend,

If you suspect a friend is in a controlling or abusive relationship, it’s difficult to help. It often takes seven attempts for a victim to leave a relationship. That can be frustrating for those who want their loved one to get out sooner. You will hear me say over and over that a victim of domestic abuse has to get to their bottom of enough is enough. Unfortunately,  their family and friends that love them –  can’t make that happen.  

 So, what can you do?  

 You Can Listen!  

Giving them a safe place to talk about what they are going through with out being judged or told what they need to do can be a huge help.  

Give Them Assurances!  

All they are hearing from their partner is how crazy they are and they are at fault for the abuse. They need to be assured that they don’t deserve to be treated this way, it is not their fault and that you believe in them.   

Point Out The Danger!  

Tell the victim that you think they could be in danger, that you are concerned for their life.  

Provide Resources! 

Do your research and compile numbers of domestic violence resources. Find a support group and offer to take them or watch the kids for them so they can go.  Be mindful of their safety when you provide this information.  Make sure to be discrete so that the abuser does not find out they have this information. 

Ask What You Can Do!  

Ask what you can do to help.  Be sure you do this in person or on the phone.  Often abusers read emails and text messages.  Be careful how you communicate with them about this.  

Don’t Tell Them What To Do! 

Telling them what to do is not effective.  Abusers often prevent victims from making decisions. Telling the victim what to do could sound controlling, like the abuser.  Besides, it is not simple like it may seem to you.  

Help Them With A Plan!  

Ask the victim where she would go if she decided to leave. Help her to think about making a plan, a plan that would be safe.  

Call 911

If abuse is actively occurring, immediately call: 9-1-1!  This could save their life! 

If you have any questions or need help with this, please feel free to contact me.  My contact info is at the top of this blog.   

Peace and Blessings,  


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